Hey my lovelies,
I’ve noticed a recent trend lately and I thought I would share my thoughts on it.
A lot of us are getting dumped on with problems. Whether it’s losing a job, having health issues, changing new schools, dealing with old feelings, losing loved ones, etc. We all have problems, am I right? We all have different situations to deal with.
First off, it’s not your fault. Sometimes bad things happen to good people, for no good reason. And it sucks. It’s okay to show your feelings. Be mad, have a good cry and go for a run. You’ll get through this.
To all of my friends going through issues right now, here’s a huge hug from me to you. And even though we’re miles apart, I’m always here if you need someone to talk to you.
For the rest of us, go hug a doggy. On my bad days I just sit down on the rug and let my dogs crawl all over me. It’s fun and I get smothered in kisses. They don’t care about all the things I’m going through, they just give me kisses. I’ve joked that if it wasn’t for my kids I would be a total cat lady…seriously. If you don’t have a doggy or kitty you can go to an animal shelter and go play with some fluffy friends, or even play with the hamsters at the pet store. They like when people show up and love the animals.
There’s an old saying, “You can’t know the good without the bad.”
And it’s true.
I’m going to get super personal in this post, fair warning.
There are days when I’m pretty sure I’m failing as a mom. My husband reassures me that I’m not. But I’ll drop a soup can on my foot and accidentally teach my kids a new bad word. Yep. Or the kids will get annoyed with other drivers on the road and say, “Hey idiot, move over!” Uh, I wonder where they learned that from. Then there are days when they all cozy up on the sofa together watching cartoons with the littlest one and let her pick the shows. We have good days and bad days. And I found the best way to defuse a situation is to find a way to laugh at it. So when my kids teach daddy the new word they learned I’m usually laughing to myself in the corner.
No that’s not the worst thing that can happen in someone’s life. We’ve lost jobs and struggled for 5 months to find one during the recession. We lived off student loans. Let me just say, when you truly have nothing it’s easier to appreciate every little thing in your life. Even having money for a $5 pizza at Little Caesar’s was a luxury. Those days we celebrated and took the kids out to the park for a picnic. And when we were able to find a job to support our family, we treasured it even more.
I had very difficult pregnancies. There were a lot of sleepless nights because it was touch and go and I didn’t know if I could keep the babies in. It was nine months of tears and prayers for each one. And during every delivery I usually ended up sobbing because I was so grateful to have them. That would scare my doctors though, hah. Even when my kids annoy me some days, I’m so grateful to have them in my life. I feel so blessed.
There is one thing that I do in my life and it’s taken me a few years to get it right. I don’t compare myself to anyone. Honestly, because I’ve never met anyone else like me…but also because my life is different than theirs. We all have different life experiences. It’s taken years for us to get where we are today. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Everyone is going through issues, they may have a better way of hiding it, but everyone has things to deal with. You’re unique and special. No one’s life is perfect.
It’s okay to fall apart.
Sometimes things will be so hard you don’t know how you’ll get through it.
I’m here to tell you that you will get through it.
It’s okay to have bad days. It’s healthy even.
Because without bad days we couldn’t know the joy in the good ones. Or the wonderfully mundane, status quo days.
If you ever feel your whole world shatter and fall apart, don’t despair. I promise you’ll be able to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and grow stronger than you’ve ever been before.
Bad days don’t last forever. It’s just a rough patch right now. You’ll be able to get through this. You’re a wonderful person that has value and worth. Don’t worry, things have a funny way of working out in the end. And if things aren’t working out, it’s not the end yet.
Be gentle with yourself. Learn to say no to obligations if you need some time to heal or patch yourself together. Take time to fill your “bucket”. It’s hard to fill someone else’s bucket when we feel empty ourselves. So go pamper yourself, do something nice for yourself. Be a little selfish. It’s okay.
I keep hidden stashes of good ice cream in my freezer just for me and don’t share with the kids. I usually eat those after we put them to bed. I also hide candy in various places, even hubby can’t find them. We also have all the “adult” movies in our room, you know the PG-13 ones. Hah. I also like to treat myself every now and then to something cute to wear or fun new jewelry. I like feeling pretty. Especially when I’ve spent a week in my pajamas taking care of sick kids.
You don’t have to be Superman or Wonder Women all the time. Even they had bad days.
It’s okay to fall apart sometimes. It means you’re human.
I promise you’ll have better days ahead.
Even flowers need rainy days.
Take care my lovelies!! And just know that you don’t have to go through this alone.
How do you get over your bad days? Share your comments below. 🙂